The most common ones I see are stopping smoking, cutting down on the wine, losing weight and saving money.
I know I have made many over the years but I can’t think of one I have actually kept, but I really am going to follow them through.
I have been thinking about New Year Resolutions that will actually change and make a positive impact on my life and thought I would share them with you.
My 5 New Year Resolutions
(I hope at the end of the blog post you will share your own with me)
1. Stop comparing myself to others
This is something I forever find myself doing, always comparing myself, my house, my career, my kids, in fact, everything in my life I compare to others and I always feel envious or a failure.
But the problem is how I see others lives isn’t actually what it is.
I have learned this past year that looks are deceiving and beyond the surface, they are just like me, vulnerable and struggling their way through daily tasks.
My life is what I make it, what makes me happy, I should not want to live the way someone else does, comparing yourself to others is destructive.
I must learn to make the most of the things I have and be grateful for what I do have, rather than be envious of what I do not.
I think this New Year Resolution would allow me to feel less guilty and less of a failure.
2. Make an effort with my parents and family members
I am very lucky that I have both parents and an extended large family who live within walking distance yet I find myself too busy to visit or even phone them.
I take for granted that I have a large family, yet can count on one hand how many times I have visited their houses this year, as they always come to me.
I do think it is easier for them to visit me as organizing 6 children to go out to visit is like a military operation, but I shouldn’t always have the children with me.
I should be going out and visiting my family members alone, so we can have an adult conversation and be able to talk about things away from little ears.
I have sadly witnessed friends parents passing away this year and the devastation that leaves.
I need to spend as much quality time with my own parents and close family members as possible and create new memories with them.
This New Year Resolution would allow me to feel supported and surrounded by people who love me.
3. Take care of my mental health
If my physical health is deteriorating then off I go to the GP if over the counter painkillers or remedies are not helping but I put off asking for support when I find my mental health suffering, which is dangerous especially for me because I am diagnosed with Bipolar.
This New Year Resolution is a must for me and I know my life will be easier and drama-free if I actually start taking proper care of my mental health.
I will ask for help when I need it, I will attend all appointments with my mental health team and I will take a look at relaxing techniques as well as using the anxiety tools I have been taught.
4. Stop moaning about the little things
I spend far too much time moaning about trivial things, mainly about the mess the kids make and when I find myself doing this from now on I am going to remind myself that I will miss the mess and disorganization when they have all grown up and flew the nest.
If they ask me to play a game instead of saying I will when I have finished the washing up or folding the laundry, the housework is going to have to wait because I realize a messy house is a happy and fun house.
I bitch about housework far too much.
The overflowing laundry basket or dishes piled high in the sink do not represent my parenting skills.
Nobody will think I am not coping if the house is not up to a showroom standard.
5. Be a better person
Simply put, start making more time for the most important person in my life, me.
I always put others needs before my own and I have realized this year how important it is for me to take care of myself properly.
I am going to make time for me, to do the things that I enjoy doing and not feel guilty about treating myself or enjoying activities away from the children.
I want to be a better person, a better mother and a better friend and to be able to do this I must face the battles I fight in my head daily.
I am worthy of love, I am not useless and I do deserve happiness.
This New Year Resolution has to be the one that I really do keep.
What New Year Resolutions with you be making this year?
Share them with me…..