The most common ones I see are stopping smoking, cutting down on the wine, losing weight and saving money.
I know I have made many over the years but I can’t think of one I have actually kept, but I really am going to follow them through.
I have been thinking about New Year Resolutions that will actually change and make a positive impact on my life and thought I would share them with you.
My 5 New Year Resolutions
(I hope at the end of the blog post you will share your own with me)
1. Stop comparing myself to others
This is something I forever find myself doing, always comparing myself, my house, my career, my kids, in fact, everything in my life I compare to others and I always feel envious or a failure.
But the problem is how I see others lives isn’t actually what it is.
I have learned this past year that looks are deceiving and beyond the surface, they are just like me, vulnerable and struggling their way through daily tasks.
My life is what I make it, what makes me happy, I should not want to live the way someone else does, comparing yourself to others is destructive.
I must learn to make the most of the things I have and be grateful for what I do have, rather than be envious of what I do not.
I think this New Year Resolution would allow me to feel less guilty and less of a failure.
2. Make an effort with my parents and family members
I am very lucky that I have both parents and an extended large family who live within walking distance yet I find myself too busy to visit or even phone them.
I take for granted that I have a large family, yet can count on one hand how many times I have visited their houses this year, as they always come to me.
I do think it is easier for them to visit me as organizing 6 children to go out to visit is like a military operation, but I shouldn’t always have the children with me.
I should be going out and visiting my family members alone, so we can have an adult conversation and be able to talk about things away from little ears.
I have sadly witnessed friends parents passing away this year and the devastation that leaves.
I need to spend as much quality time with my own parents and close family members as possible and create new memories with them.
This New Year Resolution would allow me to feel supported and surrounded by people who love me.
3. Take care of my mental health
If my physical health is deteriorating then off I go to the GP if over the counter painkillers or remedies are not helping but I put off asking for support when I find my mental health suffering, which is dangerous especially for me because I am diagnosed with Bipolar.
This New Year Resolution is a must for me and I know my life will be easier and drama-free if I actually start taking proper care of my mental health.
I will ask for help when I need it, I will attend all appointments with my mental health team and I will take a look at relaxing techniques as well as using the anxiety tools I have been taught.
I will stop allowing my mental health to control me and I will control it.
4. Stop moaning about the little things
I spend far too much time moaning about trivial things, mainly about the mess the kids make and when I find myself doing this from now on I am going to remind myself that I will miss the mess and disorganization when they have all grown up and flew the nest.
If they ask me to play a game instead of saying I will when I have finished the washing up or folding the laundry, the housework is going to have to wait because I realize a messy house is a happy and fun house.
I bitch about housework far too much.
The overflowing laundry basket or dishes piled high in the sink do not represent my parenting skills.
Nobody will think I am not coping if the house is not up to a showroom standard.
5. Be a better person
Simply put, start making more time for the most important person in my life, me.
I always put others needs before my own and I have realized this year how important it is for me to take care of myself properly.
I am going to make time for me, to do the things that I enjoy doing and not feel guilty about treating myself or enjoying activities away from the children.
I want to be a better person, a better mother and a better friend and to be able to do this I must face the battles I fight in my head daily.
I am worthy of love, I am not useless and I do deserve happiness.
This New Year Resolution has to be the one that I really do keep.
What New Year Resolutions with you be making this year?
Share them with me…..
Yet again hun another inspiring post defo gonna start some of these and thank you again for taking time to write this blog Xxxx
I decided not to do New Years resolutions this year but instead make promises. I promise to smile and laugh more with my babies as time goes by so quickly, I promise to not be as negative and take one positive at least out of every day, I promise to sort my finances out and be in a better financial position, I promise to not let the people around me who want to bring me down be part of mine or my families life’s anymore and I promise to not hold grudges. I am so far succeeding in these promises and hope to continue xxxx
To be honest i never make resolutions, i just vow to continue being the same honest person i consider myself to be 😀 i don’t do regrets from my earlier years where i used to make resolutions tho as i believe everything we do , say etc defines who we are 🙂 great blog post tho babe xxx
I find it hard to not compare myself to others too but I am slowly learning that we all grow at different paces and should be comfortable in our own identities. But I know that is easier said than done, I do hope that you are able to deal with your mental health too, from personal experiences I have mental health diagnoses as well and it can all be too easy to ignore our mental health. It is important to take care of ourselves.
I don’t tend to make New Years resolutions.
However this year I’m going to really focus on losing weight and getting healthier.
Stopping the comparison thing is CERTAINLY an amazing goal to have!!! All too often people fall prey to that and it seriously causes extreme depression! I learned long ago that I am very unique and everyone has their own purpose in life, thus I never compare myself! 😉
Generally an New Years resolution is dropped by the end of January so this year I waited until mid January to make them! Exercise is my biggest goal and hopefully that will lead to weight loss but no matter what I am determined to keep a positive attitude.
I think these are good resolutions, probably for everyone, not just mums. Not comparing yourself to others especially in times of social media!
These are all great New Years goals. I agree taking care of mental health is a very important thing. I have the bad habit of comparing myself to others, I need to work on that this year. Good luck to you.
I will stop moaning about the little things. I will stop complaining about the messes from my kids.
I have to admit I don’t make new years resolutions anymore. However, these sound like these are some wonderful ones for Mums.
I really enjoyed this post. These are things I need to do as well.
These are all great resolutions. I need to quit comparing myself to others too.
These are pretty similar to a few promises I made to myself this year. I’m glad you are taking charge if your mental health. Kudos to you.
-Dee
Really great tips. They r all good resolutions to follow . Love it
These are great resolutions! I think theses are very versatile, not just for us moms out here. Stop comparing yourself is a very smart goal to have, we all need this resolution on our list!
These are great goals for anyone to adopt, not just moms. As a young parent with my first child, I found myself always saying no and I think it was because that’s the answer I always got as a child so I made it a goal to say yes unless it was something harmful. That was the only goal I really stuck to.
I love that you started with telling moms to stop the comparison game. I think it’s human nature to want what others have, but when you learn to appreciate your own journey, things get a lot better
I like this list although I never ever make New Year’s resolutions, I think they don’t work. I think making the items on the list as goals that you work on daily, weekly or monthly is much more effective.
I think the best one to pick for me here is stop moaning about little things. Sometimes its just stressful and its not worth it.
Love these resolutions!! I’m working on the comparison game as well. I have a feeling it’s going to be a great year!!
Great Goals! One of my favorite things to say is that comparison is the thief of joy. Carve your own path, no one else has your problems, strengths or dreams.
Both of my parents are still alive, and I spend a lot of time with them. I am reminded often how lucky I am that they are still around and still together. I cherish the time that I have with them. My New Year resolution was to stay productive in whatever I choose to do in 2018.
These are all great New Years goals. I agree taking care of mental health is a very important thing. And, Stop comparing yourself with others is a very smart goal to have.
These are great resolutions for all kinds of people. Not just moms! Love these!
I like all of the points you made, but the first one resonates with me the most. I started comparing myself to me from the day before and trying to be better today than I was yesterday. Reflecting on what one can improve within themselves in a great first step to becoming a better person all around.
What a great new years resolutions that mums need to make. I really like all your points and you’re right, that we do not compare ourselves to other. Becuase we have different personalities and character. and that is the first step to become a better person.
My resolution is to practice self care and self compassion as I try to be a stronger woman.Good luck with all your resolutions 🙂
They say Moms are like super heroes, yes they are and they also have great weaknesses. That’s why a strong support of the family is needed and also the bond with kids. And take a hobby to help release home stress.
Im not a mom yet but even I can take some advices of this list you gave to moms. This is good info and please take this past the new year and make it a lifestyle!
These are really good resolutions which all people, not just parents, could follow. Sometimes resolutions are hard for some people. I guess just being nice to others and yourself if a great place for people to start.
I feel like all of us should take this advice. However, if anyone deserves to whine a little from time to time, it is the mums. They all work so hard.
This is such a good post. Al moms need to just see this and love on themselves for sure!
YES YES YES !! Specially #1 !! I have to stop comparing my self to other moms, specially the “know it all” that have a “perfect” life figured out 😛 Thank you for sharing ! you’re awesome !
These are all the things I’ve been trying to catch up with too. But even since I was pregnant, I knew I could never compare myself to anyone (because I love to hang out with moms and learn new things). 🙂
As I’m not a parent myself (yet), I’ve not had to endure any of these “issues” per say. But it sounds like you’ve got some great experience and advice here to share with other parents x
I’m down to making these resolutions. We need to be fairer to ourselves as moms for sure.
yes yes yes though it can all be hard sometimes we must remember to take care of our mental health
So true.. This could be my new year resolution as well.. hahaha~ Such a great list for mummy…