When everything in life seems to be going wrong, take one look at what you did right (your kids), to remind yourself it was all worth it. We all have those days when everything feels just too much when no matter what we do, we feel its just not enough.
It’s during these dark moments that we feel failures but it’s during these times that we need to look at the things we did get right, our children.
I run a support group for mothers on Facebook and face a daily tirade of problems and demons that mothers face and the strength and courage these women possess is beyond words, fighting their own battles yet supporting others having a difficult time.
And the one thing that binds us together is our children, without them, many of us would have given up a long time ago, I know I would have.
There are days when just getting out of bed is a struggle but we have to when we are mothers. Our children are our protectors, they give us the strength to carry on when we feel we can not.
Just because we are a mother doesn’t mean we don’t become depressed and feel like ending our own lives, depression is an illness that changes our rational thinking.
Mothers who think of taking their own lives are not selfish, they are mentally ill.
I sadly speak with too many mothers who feel suicide is their only option, it’s during these dark conversations that I need them to think of their children, I know that’s the only thing keeping them alive.
Having faced this dark time myself I know the only way to keep them from hurting themselves is to ask them to go and sit beside their child and look into their eyes, to see that despite them feeling that everything is going wrong, they got something right.
I suppose it’s an emotional blackmail trick I play, but it’s one that has kept me alive.
I understand how it feels to believe your children would be better off without you, that’s how depression makes you feel, worthless when those negative thoughts convince you your kids are better off without you.
If you ever feel this way please speak with a health professional because depression can be treated, you do not have to suffer this alone.
When Everything Is Going Wrong Hold On
Nothing lasts forever, not even depression, I promise you that with the right people beside you things will get better, you won’t always feel this way, there really is light at the end of the tunnel.
When you feel that things are falling apart look at your beautiful children and see how amazing you really are, they think you’re perfect and you are because you have given up your own wants and needs to ensure they get theirs.
As a mother, you have a responsibility to be the best mother you can be and sometimes that means asking for help.
Crying is not a sign of weakness
You don’t have to put on a brave face, you’re allowed to cry, it’s a great way to deal with those built up emotions. Contrary to popular belief, crying is not a sign of weakness, instead, it is a mark of staying strong for too long.
Remind yourself that there are many reasons for you to feel grateful.
Please don’t ever feel that things are too bad to go on, reach out and grab someone’s hand, there is so much support readily available.
When everything in life seems to be going wrong take a look into your child’s eyes and see how much they love you and need you to keep fighting on.
Be honest – how many of you reading this can relate to it?